i really like this girl and i think she likes me back but she's going out with someone. What do i do???? X_X O_O I think i <3 Her
Be a genuine friend, and just in case it happens - be there for her, to catch her when she falls. If it is meant to be, then she will see that you are loyal, trustworthy and honest. That is probably the best thing you can do because you don't want to lose her when she finds out or thinks that you are hanging around only because to like her. Men and women are different in that sense....good luck
you need to wait until she's out of the relationship.
SO0O many girls in relationships end up hearing about this other guy crushing on her, she breaks up with the guy she has, hooks up with the other dude, she ends up hating him too, and wants to get back with the first dude so then she;ll dump you and the next thing you know the whole world is raining marshmellows.
translation--- wait until she breaks up with the guy. it's the only thing you can do.
well depending on how long she has been in her current relationship you might want to just let it go but if it hasn't been that long them maybe you should just tell her you have feelings for her and you think she is making the wrong decision but sometimes you have to work at things like this it may take a while
You should tell her how you feel. Then explain to her that you understand she is in a relationship but you really had to tell her how she feels. If she does like you she will end it with her bf and be with you. But don't get with her if she decieds to cheat on her man!! Its all or nothing! Good luck! I wish you the best!
i wouldnt do anything bro. how would you feel if you were going out with her and some dude tries to move in and start something with your lady?? you would be pissed. just wait untill they break up or something real men dont move in on someone elses girl.
Listen guys are always thinking oh she has a man she doesn't like me, DONT BE SCARED DUDE! go for it! if she's not interested then walk away like nothing happened but let her know you're really into her, compliment her. i'm sure she wont let you down (:
Go for it.
What do you have to lose?!
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If it doesn't come together, remember there are PLENTY of fish in the sea!!!
Tell her to make a choice you, or the other guy
Friday, March 13, 2009
Do I have a reason to be hurt in this situation? Or do I simply care too much?
Alright, I have enormous feelings for this girl, whom I'm friends with... Lately we've been getting closer and she was going out with this guy that didn't really treat her so well, so they broke up... After that, we were getting closer, I was getting her to laugh in conversations, she showed some signs of interests, and then all of the sudden, she's back with her ex, who, again, didn't treat her so well towards the end of their first relationship...
I'm so confused as to why she'd want to be with him again. I would treat her sooo much better, I truly have the deepest feelings for her, and its not about just her physical appearance or anything... Sure, I think she's the most gorgeous girl I've ever laid eyes on, but I've gotten to know her a bit and her personality and we've talked about our interests and stuff... I just genuinely like her, and then as she's seemingly starting to show signs of interest in me, she decides to give her ex another "go."
She realizes that she might be getting herself into another mess, and I'm just concerned for her, but I'm also upset that my chances may be put off for an extended period of time...
I'm just confused and I feel hurt in this situation because of the fact that I thought that there was something there between us, but she is willing to go back to possibly being mistreated again... I think so highly of her and she honestly deserves the world in my eyes, and I know I could give her that if she'd just see something in me...
Do I have a reason to feel as upset as I do with this situation... Yes we are friends so I'm pretty in tune with what's going on and with the feelings I have for her, is it ok that I feel hurt by this whole thing?
Maybe I care for her too much for my own good, but I just think the world of her...
She isn't aware of my feelings for her yet either, I don't think... I haven't told her or anything.
Be upset with yourself not her. She isnt attracted to you for anything more than friends. Read the signs. Trust me she knows you like her. Being nice to a girl that likes bad boys and drama wont make her want you. Stop wasing your time. It doesnt matter what you could give her she likes games.
I'm so confused as to why she'd want to be with him again. I would treat her sooo much better, I truly have the deepest feelings for her, and its not about just her physical appearance or anything... Sure, I think she's the most gorgeous girl I've ever laid eyes on, but I've gotten to know her a bit and her personality and we've talked about our interests and stuff... I just genuinely like her, and then as she's seemingly starting to show signs of interest in me, she decides to give her ex another "go."
She realizes that she might be getting herself into another mess, and I'm just concerned for her, but I'm also upset that my chances may be put off for an extended period of time...
I'm just confused and I feel hurt in this situation because of the fact that I thought that there was something there between us, but she is willing to go back to possibly being mistreated again... I think so highly of her and she honestly deserves the world in my eyes, and I know I could give her that if she'd just see something in me...
Do I have a reason to feel as upset as I do with this situation... Yes we are friends so I'm pretty in tune with what's going on and with the feelings I have for her, is it ok that I feel hurt by this whole thing?
Maybe I care for her too much for my own good, but I just think the world of her...
She isn't aware of my feelings for her yet either, I don't think... I haven't told her or anything.
Be upset with yourself not her. She isnt attracted to you for anything more than friends. Read the signs. Trust me she knows you like her. Being nice to a girl that likes bad boys and drama wont make her want you. Stop wasing your time. It doesnt matter what you could give her she likes games.
Something my dad said, and I would like your thoughts?
I was having a conversation with my dad not too long ago, and he said that, basically, a man's way of thinking is analytical (sort of an abrupt, not always delicate, problem solver), and a woman's way of thinking is emotional (listening to the problem, hugs, etc etc).
Now, before you guys jump to conclusions and say my dad is sexist, he's not. He has a realist view on things (which I sort of inherited from him), and I value his opinions. You can't be on Earth for 48 years and not learn something, haha.
Of course, there are slight variations here and there. Some men will be a little more emotional when trying to solve this or that, and some women will be a little more callous and analytical. He said that I'm pretty analytical minded, which, to me, was a huge complement. Emotions get in the way of right and wrong sometimes.
Do you agree with what Dad said? What category do you think you fall under?
I don't believe that Emotions get in the way of right and wrong - anytime
In a Civilize Society we have Laws, (religion also) so there are no gray area in right and wrong.
In the short version yes, your father is correct. But, with so many families having only one parent, you will emulate the one you respect the most.
I am a female, with a type A personality leaning towards Analytical
I totally understand your dad's way of looking at things, because it makes sense. Women are usually more compassionate and motherly then men are, and men pay attention to more of the story then how you felt when the act was taking place.
Agree. I fall under the male category.
Now, before you guys jump to conclusions and say my dad is sexist, he's not. He has a realist view on things (which I sort of inherited from him), and I value his opinions. You can't be on Earth for 48 years and not learn something, haha.
Of course, there are slight variations here and there. Some men will be a little more emotional when trying to solve this or that, and some women will be a little more callous and analytical. He said that I'm pretty analytical minded, which, to me, was a huge complement. Emotions get in the way of right and wrong sometimes.
Do you agree with what Dad said? What category do you think you fall under?
I don't believe that Emotions get in the way of right and wrong - anytime
In a Civilize Society we have Laws, (religion also) so there are no gray area in right and wrong.
In the short version yes, your father is correct. But, with so many families having only one parent, you will emulate the one you respect the most.
I am a female, with a type A personality leaning towards Analytical
I totally understand your dad's way of looking at things, because it makes sense. Women are usually more compassionate and motherly then men are, and men pay attention to more of the story then how you felt when the act was taking place.
Agree. I fall under the male category.
Who else but me thinks that hot girls with baby voices are so cute?
i do there so attractive
I LOVE IT SOOOOOOOO MUCH
Baby voices? lol
It can get annoying sometimes though, but they are ok
that **** drives me insane
I LOVE IT SOOOOOOOO MUCH
Baby voices? lol
It can get annoying sometimes though, but they are ok
that **** drives me insane
Problem with brother.?
Well recently my brother moved in with my wife because he was out of a job and had no where to go. Well anyway I started to notice he has been getting into my things and it's small stuff I don't care much about. Well anyway I've started to collect guns after my tours in Iraq and plus I'm now a police officer. Anyway I noticed one of my guns was off it's safety and loaded. I always keep them on safety with no clips in them when I'm not using them. I know he did it because it's just me my wife and him in the house. My wife has no reason to go into my guns and she denied doing so. Anyway should I talk to him about this. He gets defensive and I don't want to get him started on his menstral cycle. He's 22 years old and I don't know what to do with him. I told him if you mess with any of my things your out. So should I kick him out or what? Thanks
You gave your brother boundaries and he cross the line....so are you asking if you should change the line.
You are a Police Officer not his dad...stop wagging your finger and make a decision. He has put the mother of your unborn baby in harms way because she did not let him move in you did.
Guest weather they are friends or family should not be invading your privacy....(Gun's) ball's in your court
Just explain to him that you want him to treat your things with more respect and that hes welcome to use them as long as hedoesn'tt abuse them, like teach him how to properly handle the guns and make sure he puts them back with the safety on and unloaded.
Be calm when you talk to him,don't make it out to be a big deal out of it. But make sure he knows your serious
yes kick him out let him move in with your parents or other relatives
you should lock up your guns with padlock so that way he cant get into the gun box
you never know he might be feeling down and ending his life and taking your life and your wifes life as well so kick him out say sorry you have to go me and my wife need our own space and we are tring for a baby so you have to go i have asked our parents and they said you can move in with them
His menstral cycle? WTF is that? I say you take the bolts out of your weapons and lock em up. Then see if he is still messing with your stuff. If he does, you have given him fair warning... boot him out.
However, this could be a ploy to get your attention. Is he having problems in his life? Have you taken the time to find out what is going on in his life?
You gave your brother boundaries and he cross the line....so are you asking if you should change the line.
You are a Police Officer not his dad...stop wagging your finger and make a decision. He has put the mother of your unborn baby in harms way because she did not let him move in you did.
Guest weather they are friends or family should not be invading your privacy....(Gun's) ball's in your court
Just explain to him that you want him to treat your things with more respect and that hes welcome to use them as long as hedoesn'tt abuse them, like teach him how to properly handle the guns and make sure he puts them back with the safety on and unloaded.
Be calm when you talk to him,don't make it out to be a big deal out of it. But make sure he knows your serious
yes kick him out let him move in with your parents or other relatives
you should lock up your guns with padlock so that way he cant get into the gun box
you never know he might be feeling down and ending his life and taking your life and your wifes life as well so kick him out say sorry you have to go me and my wife need our own space and we are tring for a baby so you have to go i have asked our parents and they said you can move in with them
His menstral cycle? WTF is that? I say you take the bolts out of your weapons and lock em up. Then see if he is still messing with your stuff. If he does, you have given him fair warning... boot him out.
However, this could be a ploy to get your attention. Is he having problems in his life? Have you taken the time to find out what is going on in his life?
My situation..please help?
i like him so much.i never get the chance to talk to himm.i have to run in hallways,wake up extra early so i could eat nasty breakfast at school just to see his face.<i feel like a stalker> he gives me these shyy/sweet/curious looks. idk wut the meaning is.hes joining baseball and im joing softball so i can see him afterschool in practices and hes friends with my friend's boyfriends. i need a way to introduce myself. pleasse.i wanna do it myself and not thru something. thnx
Then introduce yourself. You will never know until you ask. I wasted to many years in high school being afraid to talk to girls and get rejected, don't you do the same.
He will respect you more for having the courage to talk to him personally rather than thru the grapevine.
No matter what you do, BE YOURSELF. Don't put forward any false pretense just to win him over. That will fade and your true colors will show thru and he will be more turned off by that than anything. ( Just as girls hate it when guys do it)
Human beings have chemistry that is either there or it is not. Don't PUSH it if it isn't...and don't RUSH it if it is. Good luck.
Hey, i also faced this kind of problem before, but seriously i would suggest you just bring out your courage and just go up and say Hi. That's the only way he would know you, no other way. I did that too to my first crush and that's how we know each other, now we are dating.
So, trust me.
Just introduce yourself. If he is already looking at you then he knows who you are. Don't be shy girl, it is the only way to break your issue.
Well he's friend with your friend's boyfriend right? So just go up to him after practice one day and say, "Oh hey, you're -your friend's boyfriend's name- friend right? I'm -your name here-"
Then introduce yourself. You will never know until you ask. I wasted to many years in high school being afraid to talk to girls and get rejected, don't you do the same.
He will respect you more for having the courage to talk to him personally rather than thru the grapevine.
No matter what you do, BE YOURSELF. Don't put forward any false pretense just to win him over. That will fade and your true colors will show thru and he will be more turned off by that than anything. ( Just as girls hate it when guys do it)
Human beings have chemistry that is either there or it is not. Don't PUSH it if it isn't...and don't RUSH it if it is. Good luck.
Hey, i also faced this kind of problem before, but seriously i would suggest you just bring out your courage and just go up and say Hi. That's the only way he would know you, no other way. I did that too to my first crush and that's how we know each other, now we are dating.
So, trust me.
Just introduce yourself. If he is already looking at you then he knows who you are. Don't be shy girl, it is the only way to break your issue.
Well he's friend with your friend's boyfriend right? So just go up to him after practice one day and say, "Oh hey, you're -your friend's boyfriend's name- friend right? I'm -your name here-"
Should I believe my ex or my ex
My ex's best friend told me that he was telling him he slept with me and stuff like that and my ex is saying he never said anything.
I think my ex's best friend likes me and he always says he hates my ex when i'm upset at my ex but he hangs out with him a few hours later.
Does it sound like my ex's best friend is just trying to make me hate my ex?
I think ur right
Ask around and see if he said it to anyone else.
go with your gut
I think my ex's best friend likes me and he always says he hates my ex when i'm upset at my ex but he hangs out with him a few hours later.
Does it sound like my ex's best friend is just trying to make me hate my ex?
I think ur right
Ask around and see if he said it to anyone else.
go with your gut
My ex said I love you too?
Well we have been hanging out lately and we were sitting with some friends at a table and he was being weird and then he kinda hit me so I said I hate you and he said I love you too.
After that someone lied to me and told me that he was saying **** and so i was mad and he was all calm about it, he was like I'm not saying anything then kinda walked away
The thing is he has liked this one girl for like 2-3 years and has asked her our like 6 times and she said no every time, I heard he is gunna try again. Is he just messing with me?
(In our school right now there is a lot of tension so when he said the I love you too thing it made our friends look and kinda go silent)
why are you making a big deal about it> i don't think he meant it in that way. he was either just being cute or just saying something. i doubt he was trying to get you back.
After that someone lied to me and told me that he was saying **** and so i was mad and he was all calm about it, he was like I'm not saying anything then kinda walked away
The thing is he has liked this one girl for like 2-3 years and has asked her our like 6 times and she said no every time, I heard he is gunna try again. Is he just messing with me?
(In our school right now there is a lot of tension so when he said the I love you too thing it made our friends look and kinda go silent)
why are you making a big deal about it> i don't think he meant it in that way. he was either just being cute or just saying something. i doubt he was trying to get you back.
Do you think a skinhead will find it hard to get a girlfriend?
In your opinion will a girl not like a skinhead? ( I'm not on about somebody on about a shaved head I'm on about a skinhead dress, beliefs, culture, music, I'm a oi! skinhead - don't assume skinheads are racist before you make a comment on that ) Do you think girls will not like skinheads? I'm 17 and a skinhead.
tbh, you sounds like a decent lad, i don't see why girls wont like you..
there is most likely someone out there into the same stuff as you..
: )
what? If you're talking about the racist kind of skinheads then yes it's very possible for them to get girls. They'll just hook up with they're "kind"
No one likes a person with an evil heart, unless their pieces of crap themselves.
You were totally born in the wrong generation my friend
I wouldn't. people DO assume skinheads are racist.
why go around and label yourself in the first place? but im sure youll find a gf
I wouldn't date one.
no i wud never date a skinhed!
tbh, you sounds like a decent lad, i don't see why girls wont like you..
there is most likely someone out there into the same stuff as you..
: )
what? If you're talking about the racist kind of skinheads then yes it's very possible for them to get girls. They'll just hook up with they're "kind"
No one likes a person with an evil heart, unless their pieces of crap themselves.
You were totally born in the wrong generation my friend
I wouldn't. people DO assume skinheads are racist.
why go around and label yourself in the first place? but im sure youll find a gf
I wouldn't date one.
no i wud never date a skinhed!
How should I approach this?
One of my best friends moved away to another school, not far away but i can't really see her. I do have her number but we lost connection, now there's a rumor not going around just in her school, but mine, that shes's pregnant. She is the kind of girl i can see having sex but i want to know the truth. How should i start of the conversation?
I am sure you will find out eventually if she actually is (unless she gets an abortion or something) but you better ask carefully so you don't hurt her feelings if she is. First, just ask her if there is anything she would like to tell you. If she says no, tell her that there has been a pretty suprising rumor about her going around your school and you would like to know if it is true or not. Tell her that the rumor is that she's pregnant, but say you don't really believe it is true (in case it isn't) but you want to hear it from her. If she says it is, then you take it from there. If she says it isn't, tell her you thought it was just a rumor.
Hope everything goes ok! ;)
Share something of yourself that is highly personal. Maybe she will feel like responding with her "news".
I am sure you will find out eventually if she actually is (unless she gets an abortion or something) but you better ask carefully so you don't hurt her feelings if she is. First, just ask her if there is anything she would like to tell you. If she says no, tell her that there has been a pretty suprising rumor about her going around your school and you would like to know if it is true or not. Tell her that the rumor is that she's pregnant, but say you don't really believe it is true (in case it isn't) but you want to hear it from her. If she says it is, then you take it from there. If she says it isn't, tell her you thought it was just a rumor.
Hope everything goes ok! ;)
Share something of yourself that is highly personal. Maybe she will feel like responding with her "news".
Would you be mad if your spouse kept getting in little accidents with the car?
When we got married and moved acrross the country, I gave my husband my car (he didn't have one) for his job because he does sales and needs a nice reliable car for all of the traveling he does. We got me a 10 year old Dodge Durange because I stay home and don't need to drive a lot. But since giving him the car, 9 months ago, he has gotten in a lot of little accidents. For example, yesterday he was on the phone with one of his clients at the gas station. He forgot the pump was in still in the car and drove off ripping out the hose to the gas pump and breaking our tail light. Then today. He was closing the garge door while the back door of the car was open (an SUV) so it almost took off the car door and the garge door. When I get upset he laughs and says until he gets into a real accident, only then can I be mad. I feel like he obviously has no respect for the car, is throwing away money, and he is not taking it seriously. I really do not know what his problem is but if he is this absent-minded I feel that he shouldn't be driving and he definately shouldn't have a brand new car. If it was your spouse would you be mad??
Yes, I would be mad. That was MY car to start with, and I gave it to him expecting him to treat it well, and with respect.
Have you been in an accident like this? If not, I think you should get the brand new car, since you know how to treat your things, and he obviously doesn't.
I would be pretty upset. He needs to be more careful. He is not a child. It seems he might be preoccupied with something. Have another long talk with him about it and let him know that if there is another preoccupied mishap, he gets the clunker.
I would load the durango up with the best insurance and make him drive it. He is wasting money and causing you to worry. A major accident is coming and he isn't learning. He sounds very childish.
lmao..sorry i have to laugh..your husband certainly is absent minded...dear me..ripping out the hose to the gas pump.
Bless him..i would be aggigated but that is another tale to add to my book collection. ;-) haha
Your husband sounds irresponsible. I do not think there is much you can do to change that. You may have to just live with it, although it is most unfair. I think you have an unsolvable problem
Yes you should be upset because he needs to drive more carefully and pay attention and be aware. I WOULD GET UPSET.
No I be worried
Is he on any medication??
Yes I'd make him get an old junker to drive until he shows some responsibility
You better go run and knock on wood. When it's your turn I'm afraid, it's going to be a BIG WRECK I can feel it. The bragger get's the dead worm
hell yes, I'd be mad at myself for giving him my car!
I have to admit, I'd be annoyed. It's one thing if someone pulled out in front of him...or it was a parking lot mishap...but this would be too annoying. Not counting that it wouldn't be the best on my insurance rates.
If he's just gonna ding up the car, then let him drive the old one.
My ex had 7 wrecks in less than a year. None of them were "his fault", but if he hadn't been being a jerk, they wouldn't have happened. So, I know what you're going through.
I don't know if mad is the word, I would be very concerned. He may be having absence seizures (research epilepsy), or mild narcolepsy. Can you get him something so that he can drive and talk 'hands free'? I would call and schedule an appointment for him to see a doctor and be certain to explain that you are concerned about the possibliity of mild epilepsy. They may be able to schedule an EEG to check for that on the same day.
If your husband resists the appointment you have two choices: do nothing and risk him having a serious accident resulting in injury or death to him or someone else or having him total the car... or ... you can put your foot down and threaten to call his boss about these minor accidents which are primarily happening on company time. Either way the ultimate decision is up to you. Personally, I would prefer his anger to a serious injury or worse.
Good luck and God bless you.
I would be furious. He obviously is a little bit immature when it comes to posessions and value. Start making him pay from his own paycheck to fix all of the little things he does to the car. Make him pay for the tickets and for the insurance premium (because it WILL go up if he has tickets).
He's just irresponsible and doesn't realize the value of things. Let him know how this is affecting you and tell him that he will have to start taking the Durango for a while until he can prove he cares about the value of a car.
He needs to focus on what he is doing. Him laughing about it is his nervousness about your anger. Try and be understanding with him, but tell him to start paying attention to what he is doing because you feel that he is disrespecting you. It's not fair that he is doing that to what you likely bought and payed for, but keep in mind also that you are married, you are a couple, what comes from his pocket also comes from yours in repairs and that's just the way relationships are. You can't be selfish, as hard as it is, and you have to be considerate, but so does he.
Mad, no, upset yes. If you are mad you have some other issues that are causing you to be that, but to be mad about something that is replaceable is silly. Sure you don't want any extra added costs and you don't want to have to replace the car but at least he's working and bringing home the bacon.. That's a lot to be grateful for today. I also used to get mad about little things until I had help in understanding how it was affecting my relationship and how in it's own way was petty. It was issues from my upbringing that had me go off that way. Now I can relax and even laugh at some of the small things, I feel better too.
Of course I would be mad, had he not laughed maybe I would have let him go about his business and just consider him accident prone. But he thinks it's all just a joke and that would make me livid. He doesn't consider the damage he did at the gas station serious? It was more then just absent minded, it was irresponsible. He needs to start acting like an adult and take care of the only car he has thanks to you. I'm sure he knows money doesn't grow on trees and there are lots of people in this world that have to walk or take the bus. He is lucky but he has this "I don't care attitude". That would be the last car I ever give him.
Yes, I would be mad. That was MY car to start with, and I gave it to him expecting him to treat it well, and with respect.
Have you been in an accident like this? If not, I think you should get the brand new car, since you know how to treat your things, and he obviously doesn't.
I would be pretty upset. He needs to be more careful. He is not a child. It seems he might be preoccupied with something. Have another long talk with him about it and let him know that if there is another preoccupied mishap, he gets the clunker.
I would load the durango up with the best insurance and make him drive it. He is wasting money and causing you to worry. A major accident is coming and he isn't learning. He sounds very childish.
lmao..sorry i have to laugh..your husband certainly is absent minded...dear me..ripping out the hose to the gas pump.
Bless him..i would be aggigated but that is another tale to add to my book collection. ;-) haha
Your husband sounds irresponsible. I do not think there is much you can do to change that. You may have to just live with it, although it is most unfair. I think you have an unsolvable problem
Yes you should be upset because he needs to drive more carefully and pay attention and be aware. I WOULD GET UPSET.
No I be worried
Is he on any medication??
Yes I'd make him get an old junker to drive until he shows some responsibility
You better go run and knock on wood. When it's your turn I'm afraid, it's going to be a BIG WRECK I can feel it. The bragger get's the dead worm
hell yes, I'd be mad at myself for giving him my car!
I have to admit, I'd be annoyed. It's one thing if someone pulled out in front of him...or it was a parking lot mishap...but this would be too annoying. Not counting that it wouldn't be the best on my insurance rates.
If he's just gonna ding up the car, then let him drive the old one.
My ex had 7 wrecks in less than a year. None of them were "his fault", but if he hadn't been being a jerk, they wouldn't have happened. So, I know what you're going through.
I don't know if mad is the word, I would be very concerned. He may be having absence seizures (research epilepsy), or mild narcolepsy. Can you get him something so that he can drive and talk 'hands free'? I would call and schedule an appointment for him to see a doctor and be certain to explain that you are concerned about the possibliity of mild epilepsy. They may be able to schedule an EEG to check for that on the same day.
If your husband resists the appointment you have two choices: do nothing and risk him having a serious accident resulting in injury or death to him or someone else or having him total the car... or ... you can put your foot down and threaten to call his boss about these minor accidents which are primarily happening on company time. Either way the ultimate decision is up to you. Personally, I would prefer his anger to a serious injury or worse.
Good luck and God bless you.
I would be furious. He obviously is a little bit immature when it comes to posessions and value. Start making him pay from his own paycheck to fix all of the little things he does to the car. Make him pay for the tickets and for the insurance premium (because it WILL go up if he has tickets).
He's just irresponsible and doesn't realize the value of things. Let him know how this is affecting you and tell him that he will have to start taking the Durango for a while until he can prove he cares about the value of a car.
He needs to focus on what he is doing. Him laughing about it is his nervousness about your anger. Try and be understanding with him, but tell him to start paying attention to what he is doing because you feel that he is disrespecting you. It's not fair that he is doing that to what you likely bought and payed for, but keep in mind also that you are married, you are a couple, what comes from his pocket also comes from yours in repairs and that's just the way relationships are. You can't be selfish, as hard as it is, and you have to be considerate, but so does he.
Mad, no, upset yes. If you are mad you have some other issues that are causing you to be that, but to be mad about something that is replaceable is silly. Sure you don't want any extra added costs and you don't want to have to replace the car but at least he's working and bringing home the bacon.. That's a lot to be grateful for today. I also used to get mad about little things until I had help in understanding how it was affecting my relationship and how in it's own way was petty. It was issues from my upbringing that had me go off that way. Now I can relax and even laugh at some of the small things, I feel better too.
Of course I would be mad, had he not laughed maybe I would have let him go about his business and just consider him accident prone. But he thinks it's all just a joke and that would make me livid. He doesn't consider the damage he did at the gas station serious? It was more then just absent minded, it was irresponsible. He needs to start acting like an adult and take care of the only car he has thanks to you. I'm sure he knows money doesn't grow on trees and there are lots of people in this world that have to walk or take the bus. He is lucky but he has this "I don't care attitude". That would be the last car I ever give him.
Is my boyfriend cheating on me? Please help? someone?
My boyfriend lately has been leaving all the time, comes home late in the morning. We don do anything together anymore, its just like we are just roommates. He also gets mad at me for nothing, an over the stupidest things. I don know what to do need some advice.
Have you tried to open communication? You could always open up communication by lovingly telling him that you are feeling a little anxious and confused about what's going on in the relationship. Let him know that with his leaving and then being angry with you which probably seems like the rest of the time, that you would like to know if there was something that you did (this will help him from feeling as though you're attacking him) that contributes to his leaving and anger. Ask him if this is something you should be aware and concerned about, and that you're feeling insecure in the place you're at. If he decides he's with you and wants to be with you, but the conversation doesn't go very far. I would recommend couples counseling, or maybe you could invite yourself out with him when he leaves late at night and returns in the morning...see how he reacts and if he's open to it. Also, I believe that there are alot of things that you can do to make some differences and changes to the relationship without even needing him to change anything at the moment.
When you're around him make sure he sees your fun and positive side. Remember when you first started feeling the lovebug feelings? Go back there and look at who you were and how you were and the positive things that you did back then. Do you still do them now? Start finding things that you can do on your own that can take up some of your time and open you back up to growing and finding your confidence and happiness.
Being in relationships and having dealt with the anger over nothing issue...I found out that sometimes it's his own issues that makes them angry and they project it towards you as a defense. And I will admit it will leave you feeling insecure and as though maybe they're cheating on you, but I will not say for sure he is not cheating on you and that your intuition doesn't matter either.
The only person who knows if he's cheating at this moment is him. I'm not sure if I would confront him straight up in an aggressive matter if you are to start a conversation with him. If you want him to talk to you and need communication, it's time to practice finding a way to tenderly express .. "I FEEL" and ask questions. He probably feels your insecurity in this situation, and that in itself could make him defensive and ready to get pissed off so that he can avoid communication.
There's so many books to help you work on the relationship that would attract him almost subconsciously, so it's not like you have no options to speed things up or do some things passively, but it takes time to rebuild your relationship to the honeymoon stage the longer it continues, so if you're not sure how to handle the boyfriend start working on yourself and he'll see what's going on with you and be not only attracted but very curious himself about why and what made you go back to spending time on yourself - making yourself feel more attractive, secure, independent, fun, happy, motivated .... etc etc
I could go on and on....
definatly do not do what the person above me said... Talk to him about doing more things together and hanging out more but not in a nagging way and be careful because it seems like he is frustrated or somthing... just dont cheat on him to make him realize how hes stupid that will just end it comletly and thats a very stupid thing
do you ask him where he's going? Because my boyfriend does that and he's only out with his friends and he gets mad at me for the stupidest things too because I lied to him one time. But yea try talking to him.
umm catch him cheating and dump him or cheat on him to show him how it feels or just dump him
Have you tried to open communication? You could always open up communication by lovingly telling him that you are feeling a little anxious and confused about what's going on in the relationship. Let him know that with his leaving and then being angry with you which probably seems like the rest of the time, that you would like to know if there was something that you did (this will help him from feeling as though you're attacking him) that contributes to his leaving and anger. Ask him if this is something you should be aware and concerned about, and that you're feeling insecure in the place you're at. If he decides he's with you and wants to be with you, but the conversation doesn't go very far. I would recommend couples counseling, or maybe you could invite yourself out with him when he leaves late at night and returns in the morning...see how he reacts and if he's open to it. Also, I believe that there are alot of things that you can do to make some differences and changes to the relationship without even needing him to change anything at the moment.
When you're around him make sure he sees your fun and positive side. Remember when you first started feeling the lovebug feelings? Go back there and look at who you were and how you were and the positive things that you did back then. Do you still do them now? Start finding things that you can do on your own that can take up some of your time and open you back up to growing and finding your confidence and happiness.
Being in relationships and having dealt with the anger over nothing issue...I found out that sometimes it's his own issues that makes them angry and they project it towards you as a defense. And I will admit it will leave you feeling insecure and as though maybe they're cheating on you, but I will not say for sure he is not cheating on you and that your intuition doesn't matter either.
The only person who knows if he's cheating at this moment is him. I'm not sure if I would confront him straight up in an aggressive matter if you are to start a conversation with him. If you want him to talk to you and need communication, it's time to practice finding a way to tenderly express .. "I FEEL" and ask questions. He probably feels your insecurity in this situation, and that in itself could make him defensive and ready to get pissed off so that he can avoid communication.
There's so many books to help you work on the relationship that would attract him almost subconsciously, so it's not like you have no options to speed things up or do some things passively, but it takes time to rebuild your relationship to the honeymoon stage the longer it continues, so if you're not sure how to handle the boyfriend start working on yourself and he'll see what's going on with you and be not only attracted but very curious himself about why and what made you go back to spending time on yourself - making yourself feel more attractive, secure, independent, fun, happy, motivated .... etc etc
I could go on and on....
definatly do not do what the person above me said... Talk to him about doing more things together and hanging out more but not in a nagging way and be careful because it seems like he is frustrated or somthing... just dont cheat on him to make him realize how hes stupid that will just end it comletly and thats a very stupid thing
do you ask him where he's going? Because my boyfriend does that and he's only out with his friends and he gets mad at me for the stupidest things too because I lied to him one time. But yea try talking to him.
umm catch him cheating and dump him or cheat on him to show him how it feels or just dump him
Is it the guys job to keep calling the girl and setting up dates?
I was sitting in the lobby and I saw her walk past. I stop her with some conversation and just when she was leaving I asked her for her number and she gave it to me.
Later I called her and she picked up. I txt her and she txts back. I scheduled a date for Friday (tomorrow) and she said we're on. The reason I'm asking this question is because she is "supa-supa" hot and I don't know if she wants me to keep initiating with her. We're in college btw.
So do I just keep on with what I'm doing now? Also girls, if you were in such a situation with a guy would you want him to be the one initiating? Thanks :-)
Keep doing what you're doing. Since she's saying yes, she must be interested!
If I was in that situation, I would absolutely want the guy to initiate, because I'm just too darn shy to do it myself...
Later I called her and she picked up. I txt her and she txts back. I scheduled a date for Friday (tomorrow) and she said we're on. The reason I'm asking this question is because she is "supa-supa" hot and I don't know if she wants me to keep initiating with her. We're in college btw.
So do I just keep on with what I'm doing now? Also girls, if you were in such a situation with a guy would you want him to be the one initiating? Thanks :-)
Keep doing what you're doing. Since she's saying yes, she must be interested!
If I was in that situation, I would absolutely want the guy to initiate, because I'm just too darn shy to do it myself...
My really good friend is a guy, and my parents won
First of all, my mom thinks that "I don't open up to her enough" and that I'm really "hiding my feelings for him". It's SO irritating. He plays sports, and I go to his games to obviously suppiort him, cause he's my best guy friend. My mom thinks I go because I like him.
It's like...WHAT THE HECK IS SO BAD ABOUT BEING FRIENDS IF ONE IS A GUY & ONES A GIRL?
what do i say do my mom when she asks me "so, whats going on with *insertguyfriendnamehere*"
its really irritating. can you guys give me advice on what to do if your parents are over-analyzing girl & guy friendships?
you can just keep telling her there is nothing there... but maybe one day you will realize that there is something there. i was 12 and my best friend in the entire world was a guy. we stayed "friends" for almost 10 years... i am 22. my "friend" and i are getting married next month... thing thats so funny is... my mom did the EXACT same thing every time i talked to him!!!
I hate it when people do that!
I think it's very bias to do something like that.
Just because you hang with another sex you have to have something going on. ugh!
But I think you should sit down & talk to her about it like for real. Because she obviously doesn't plan on changing her mind as long as you keep on hanging with him.
unfortunently , there is really nothing you can do . i was in that same situation & they never believed me so i just quit .
It's like...WHAT THE HECK IS SO BAD ABOUT BEING FRIENDS IF ONE IS A GUY & ONES A GIRL?
what do i say do my mom when she asks me "so, whats going on with *insertguyfriendnamehere*"
its really irritating. can you guys give me advice on what to do if your parents are over-analyzing girl & guy friendships?
you can just keep telling her there is nothing there... but maybe one day you will realize that there is something there. i was 12 and my best friend in the entire world was a guy. we stayed "friends" for almost 10 years... i am 22. my "friend" and i are getting married next month... thing thats so funny is... my mom did the EXACT same thing every time i talked to him!!!
I hate it when people do that!
I think it's very bias to do something like that.
Just because you hang with another sex you have to have something going on. ugh!
But I think you should sit down & talk to her about it like for real. Because she obviously doesn't plan on changing her mind as long as you keep on hanging with him.
unfortunently , there is really nothing you can do . i was in that same situation & they never believed me so i just quit .
Anybody remember their first day in school and then high school graduation?
Zip, twelve years gone. I sure remember those two days. The blackboard with the uppercase and lowercase alphabet. Later, the robes and hats and the stage in the high school gym and the music.
yes, I can't believe I'm about to take my daughter to school for the first time this August.
It was just me yesterday, lol
yes i remember it. I remember a girl got me in trouble at lunch and i had 5 minutes off recess on my first day. I thought the teacher would hate me forever and label me a trouble maker. I got soo mad I cried all recess and a little boy with a dino toy hugged me. I walked with that boy at graduation and even thought we were never best freinds and hadn't talken to each other in four years, remembered how nice he was that fisrt day. I was really glad he was there with me at the end of it all.
I haven't graduated yet, but I sure do remember my first day of school.
Sitting in a circle with all teh other kids, the teacher near the blackboard, friendly as could be. Then you get to highschool and they don't even give ****! I didn't even think I'd make it to grade 10, thinking about my future career, but here I am.
I do all of it! mine is alittle more time gone by lol but i remember it all! mostly the groups that banned together the popular girls from the not so popular one's lol so childish...i was inbetween lol i look now at all that the italian club the pep squad the cheerleading i ran track! good memories and the good byes but ya know what i see them now out there the popular girls look like sh--t and the ones that were plain janes married and settled and then there's me the in between not married never was 3 beautiful kids all young started late had fun when i was younger ................but i look Good! i do and guess what i date and im happy .......so see we all go there............Live womn! smiled
Yep, unfortunately I have a vivid memory of those horrific days
well you see if i knew i would tell ya :)
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yes, I can't believe I'm about to take my daughter to school for the first time this August.
It was just me yesterday, lol
yes i remember it. I remember a girl got me in trouble at lunch and i had 5 minutes off recess on my first day. I thought the teacher would hate me forever and label me a trouble maker. I got soo mad I cried all recess and a little boy with a dino toy hugged me. I walked with that boy at graduation and even thought we were never best freinds and hadn't talken to each other in four years, remembered how nice he was that fisrt day. I was really glad he was there with me at the end of it all.
I haven't graduated yet, but I sure do remember my first day of school.
Sitting in a circle with all teh other kids, the teacher near the blackboard, friendly as could be. Then you get to highschool and they don't even give ****! I didn't even think I'd make it to grade 10, thinking about my future career, but here I am.
I do all of it! mine is alittle more time gone by lol but i remember it all! mostly the groups that banned together the popular girls from the not so popular one's lol so childish...i was inbetween lol i look now at all that the italian club the pep squad the cheerleading i ran track! good memories and the good byes but ya know what i see them now out there the popular girls look like sh--t and the ones that were plain janes married and settled and then there's me the in between not married never was 3 beautiful kids all young started late had fun when i was younger ................but i look Good! i do and guess what i date and im happy .......so see we all go there............Live womn! smiled
Yep, unfortunately I have a vivid memory of those horrific days
well you see if i knew i would tell ya :)
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Who do I address my
I'm busy writing my Thank You cards and I've hit a bit of a snag. One of my aunts flew up country specifically for the wedding, in fact she went out of her way to attend and in addition gave us a wonderful gift. The thing is that her husband (my uncle) didn't come with her, didn't call us to congratulate us or anything. He's retired so has enough time, has enough money to have come with her and he has known me my whole life.
So should I address the Thank You card to her and only her or should I include him (as in "Dear Aunty Jane and Uncle Jim")?
I think I would thank both of them in the card for the gift, but maybe write a special message in it specifically addressed to your Aunt Jane saying how much you appreciate her traveling so far to your wedding.
She'll most likely be the only one that reads it anyway, men don't usually care about reading those types of things.
If their card was signed with both names then, most definitely, address the Thank You to both of them (nothing wrong with putting her name first thought!).
However, if she came alone, and did not sign his name to the card, you may want to ask another family member just to make sure that there isn't some sort of turmoil in their relationship that could make your Aunt feel worse if she received a card with his name in it.
When in doubt though, it is better to give undeserved thanks, than to slight someone, especially a relative.
bite the bullet and write it to them both. check the card, though, and see if she signed both names on the card and/or gift. If so, DEFINITELY write it to both. However, even if it's just signed by her, I would write it to both (definitely her name first, though) just to be polite and take the upper road.
* I read you "additional..." definitely write it to both. It doesn't seem he was vindictive or anything.
Address it to both, but include a special message for just your aunt:
Dear Aunty Jane and Uncle Jim,
Thank you so much for blah blah blah blah ...
Aunty Jane, it warmed our hearts that you made a special trip to be present at our wedding ... blah blah blah etc.
Love,
You.
I would only address it to the one who showed up...Since he didn't have enough time to come then you didn't have enough time to write his name on the thank you card... Plus who was the gift from on the card. Just her or both?
I would address it to whoever signed the card. If it said aunt judy then just her but if it said both then send it to both.
you can skip it all together just put the last name on the envelope and on the card, just start it with thank you so much we love the gift.........
Welll, My Opinion, He Didn't Go, So You should Only Address Her For Going, But, Like I Said, Thats My Opinion
Dear Aunty Jane and Uncle Jim would be nice. Maybe there was a reason he didn't come and you just don't know about it,
Just write it to both. Don't cause WWIII over this.
I would include him, too. Maybe he'll feel guilty!
Don't be snooty. Even if you feel his actions were rude, don't be rude in return. Address the thank you note to them both, especially since both their names were on the card. I've given plenty of gifts and signed my fiance's name. I even went to a wedding last week that he couldn't attend and made sure to put both our names on the card. Just because he didn't contribute directly doesn't mean the sentiment wasn't there.
Also, especially since it was such a nice gift, you want to come across as equally grateful, not disappointed that he didn't contribute. If you didn't include his name, it might even offend her and think the thank you is not as sincere.
I would address it to both, it would be the polite thing to do. That way no one can turn it around on your either. Who knows it sounds as if your uncle may have a type of panic disorder and may be very uncomfortable out of his element/around large groups and/or in new places (agoraphobia). Try and be sensitive and just suck it up and be the nice girl ( I know family stuff can be difficult and Im sure you dont want to be the cause of a dispute)
So should I address the Thank You card to her and only her or should I include him (as in "Dear Aunty Jane and Uncle Jim")?
I think I would thank both of them in the card for the gift, but maybe write a special message in it specifically addressed to your Aunt Jane saying how much you appreciate her traveling so far to your wedding.
She'll most likely be the only one that reads it anyway, men don't usually care about reading those types of things.
If their card was signed with both names then, most definitely, address the Thank You to both of them (nothing wrong with putting her name first thought!).
However, if she came alone, and did not sign his name to the card, you may want to ask another family member just to make sure that there isn't some sort of turmoil in their relationship that could make your Aunt feel worse if she received a card with his name in it.
When in doubt though, it is better to give undeserved thanks, than to slight someone, especially a relative.
bite the bullet and write it to them both. check the card, though, and see if she signed both names on the card and/or gift. If so, DEFINITELY write it to both. However, even if it's just signed by her, I would write it to both (definitely her name first, though) just to be polite and take the upper road.
* I read you "additional..." definitely write it to both. It doesn't seem he was vindictive or anything.
Address it to both, but include a special message for just your aunt:
Dear Aunty Jane and Uncle Jim,
Thank you so much for blah blah blah blah ...
Aunty Jane, it warmed our hearts that you made a special trip to be present at our wedding ... blah blah blah etc.
Love,
You.
I would only address it to the one who showed up...Since he didn't have enough time to come then you didn't have enough time to write his name on the thank you card... Plus who was the gift from on the card. Just her or both?
I would address it to whoever signed the card. If it said aunt judy then just her but if it said both then send it to both.
you can skip it all together just put the last name on the envelope and on the card, just start it with thank you so much we love the gift.........
Welll, My Opinion, He Didn't Go, So You should Only Address Her For Going, But, Like I Said, Thats My Opinion
Dear Aunty Jane and Uncle Jim would be nice. Maybe there was a reason he didn't come and you just don't know about it,
Just write it to both. Don't cause WWIII over this.
I would include him, too. Maybe he'll feel guilty!
Don't be snooty. Even if you feel his actions were rude, don't be rude in return. Address the thank you note to them both, especially since both their names were on the card. I've given plenty of gifts and signed my fiance's name. I even went to a wedding last week that he couldn't attend and made sure to put both our names on the card. Just because he didn't contribute directly doesn't mean the sentiment wasn't there.
Also, especially since it was such a nice gift, you want to come across as equally grateful, not disappointed that he didn't contribute. If you didn't include his name, it might even offend her and think the thank you is not as sincere.
I would address it to both, it would be the polite thing to do. That way no one can turn it around on your either. Who knows it sounds as if your uncle may have a type of panic disorder and may be very uncomfortable out of his element/around large groups and/or in new places (agoraphobia). Try and be sensitive and just suck it up and be the nice girl ( I know family stuff can be difficult and Im sure you dont want to be the cause of a dispute)
My tone-deaf next door roommate sings all day...? anger management?
I couldn't sing to save my life...but the thing is that I DON'T sing.
This girl obviously doesn't have classes or anything because all day long she just sits in her room playing REALLY cheesy pop love song oldie music and trying to sing along with it...
She has one of those voices everyone would make fun of on American Idol -- I kid you not...I have no clue how her roommates deal with that.
She's not my roommate so I know I shouldn't be upset...but seriously...sometimes I want peace and she starts blasting her music and singing in a loud, horrid voice...
How can I calm down...because I'm scared I'll eventually punch a hole in the wall *__* which is rude and yea....
Please help?^^
Try earplugs when sleeping and headphones to listen to the TV or Radio at other times. Since kicking her out is not an option. Or....u could let her know that she gives a great impression of a female William Hung. If that does not let her psych down u could always get a dab of saliva from someone with strep throat and rub it on a glass and offer her a nice free drink.....she wont be singing anything in about 24-48hrs ...lol :)
This girl obviously doesn't have classes or anything because all day long she just sits in her room playing REALLY cheesy pop love song oldie music and trying to sing along with it...
She has one of those voices everyone would make fun of on American Idol -- I kid you not...I have no clue how her roommates deal with that.
She's not my roommate so I know I shouldn't be upset...but seriously...sometimes I want peace and she starts blasting her music and singing in a loud, horrid voice...
How can I calm down...because I'm scared I'll eventually punch a hole in the wall *__* which is rude and yea....
Please help?^^
Try earplugs when sleeping and headphones to listen to the TV or Radio at other times. Since kicking her out is not an option. Or....u could let her know that she gives a great impression of a female William Hung. If that does not let her psych down u could always get a dab of saliva from someone with strep throat and rub it on a glass and offer her a nice free drink.....she wont be singing anything in about 24-48hrs ...lol :)
SHORT QUESTION: Is it normal for a boyfriend to act this way and what does it mean?
My boyfriend told me the other day that he couldn't see me this weekend because he had finals to study for. I told him I would go to the mall for one day and he freaked out about it for over an hour and was begging me not to go because he was scared for my safety (since I would have to take the bus) and because he wanted to go with me etc.
I finally agreed not to go, but he got suspicious that I was just saying that and I said I would just take the bus to a shop nearby and he got worried again. Later he told me he would come up to see me this weekend after all because he wanted to see me.
I'm wondering if the reason he decided to come up was because he didn't want me going out shopping? Is this typical and what does this say about him? He's very sweet, sensitive, romantic, and a bit protective...but he's never acted this way before :/
Thanks ^^
Ethier he is trying to be sweet and protective or he is hiding something but if you guys both really like each other and youve never seen anything suspicus b4 hes probaly just protecting you
It sure sounds like he did not want you to go shopping. It's typical enough for a guy to want to over protect his girl, at least for the obsessive protective guys.
maybe he doesnt want u to meet another guy just in case u would dump him or hes really over protective it doesnt mean much
I finally agreed not to go, but he got suspicious that I was just saying that and I said I would just take the bus to a shop nearby and he got worried again. Later he told me he would come up to see me this weekend after all because he wanted to see me.
I'm wondering if the reason he decided to come up was because he didn't want me going out shopping? Is this typical and what does this say about him? He's very sweet, sensitive, romantic, and a bit protective...but he's never acted this way before :/
Thanks ^^
Ethier he is trying to be sweet and protective or he is hiding something but if you guys both really like each other and youve never seen anything suspicus b4 hes probaly just protecting you
It sure sounds like he did not want you to go shopping. It's typical enough for a guy to want to over protect his girl, at least for the obsessive protective guys.
maybe he doesnt want u to meet another guy just in case u would dump him or hes really over protective it doesnt mean much
Do you ever wish we could dress up more in our society?
besides for prom and weddings? I like being casual but I wish there were more occassions where girls could dress up. It just sucks that in our society its okay for the wealthy to dress up but not for average people. :-/
Who says you can%26#039;t get all dolled up?
Go on a date with your man to the theatre or opera, have him wear a tux and you wear your best dress, go out to a fancy dinner and just live it up.
Life%26#039;s too short to not do what you want to do. Have fun :)
ETA: Again... you can still do it if you want to. You%26#039;re just choosing not to because you don%26#039;t want to be the only one dressed up.
No prob :) Now go get dressed up! :P
HA! YES!
I have themed parties all the time just so we can have an excuse to get dressed up! The perfect dress up party: Oscar Night. We have a movie theatre nearby that screens the awards on the big screen. They roll out the red carpet and all. Some people just come in jeans and some get all decked out. Its a blast! I also went to a friends Oscar party once where we all got glamed out. Soooo much fun. Other theme parties: Guys %26amp; Dolls, Black %26amp; White Night, my friends and I even had %26quot;Winter Formal%26quot; once. I have themed parties every year for my birthday, some people get more into it than others, but its always fun. Down in New Orleans we also have Mardi Gras balls that people get all dressed up for too, but if you want to do it, make it happen.
Hell, sometimes I prance around the house in my prom dress just because I can!
I %26quot;dress up%26quot; frequently. who says you can%26#039;t. Even on days I have off of work I tend to dress in dresses, trousers, or skirts. There%26#039;s nothing that says you have to wear t-shirts and jeans all the time. I you want to be more stylish and done up, go for it.
* go to nice dinner. i wear cocktail dresses, diamonds, and heels to dinner all the time. It%26#039;s tons of fun!
I really wish we had more reasons to get fully dressed up. At the moment my friends and I are planning a girls night to the casino, and we%26#039;re also trying to find a masqeurade (?) ball so we can get dressed up for that. I just love all the old style dresses with the corset tops and large skirts.
While I tend to dress casual more often than not for comfort%26#039;s sake, I agree that it would be nice to have more opportunities to dress up. You could always create your own reasons. You don%26#039;t have to wait for someone else to come up with an occasion if it%26#039;s something you want to do.
I agree one hundred and ten percent! I love love love dressing up!!! YAY! :)
Heck yeah. I%26#039;m really stumped on when I%26#039;m going to ever wear my wedding dress again. I already feel guilty.
i agree it would be cool if girls wore dresses more often and that guys dressed nice too
Yes, I do feel that way. I love dressing up and putting on a dress or skirt, it makes me feel so elegant. In fact, in the summer time, I fill my closet with summer dresses and skirts. It%26#039;s way better than shorts and such.
I do like being casual, I%26#039;ll admit I don%26#039;t have to dress up for work and I love it. I work with kids and spend most of my time sitting on the floor, in kiddie sized chairs and bending down to tie shoes; so I can%26#039;t dress up all the time. I wear jeans about 99% of the time. I wish there were styles that were a bit more friendly for my profession and lifestyle.
But, I%26#039;d love to have more opportunities to get dressed up and go out. I really admire the styles from the 40%26#039;s and 50%26#039;s and women wearing dresses out while running errands, going to even casual dinners or an evening at someone%26#039;s home. I think it was fabulous how women had a dress and perfectly coordinated shoes, scarfs, sunglasses and accessories.
Don%26#039;t get me wrong, I love the styles and fashions of today. But, we don%26#039;t pay as much attention to detail today, as back then. Plus, clothing and accessories are so expensive now, you can%26#039;t have a pair of shoes/scarf and sunglasses to match every single outfit you own. I%26#039;d go broke, if I did that. Instead, I have basics and essentials that go with just about everything in my closet.
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Who says you can%26#039;t get all dolled up?
Go on a date with your man to the theatre or opera, have him wear a tux and you wear your best dress, go out to a fancy dinner and just live it up.
Life%26#039;s too short to not do what you want to do. Have fun :)
ETA: Again... you can still do it if you want to. You%26#039;re just choosing not to because you don%26#039;t want to be the only one dressed up.
No prob :) Now go get dressed up! :P
HA! YES!
I have themed parties all the time just so we can have an excuse to get dressed up! The perfect dress up party: Oscar Night. We have a movie theatre nearby that screens the awards on the big screen. They roll out the red carpet and all. Some people just come in jeans and some get all decked out. Its a blast! I also went to a friends Oscar party once where we all got glamed out. Soooo much fun. Other theme parties: Guys %26amp; Dolls, Black %26amp; White Night, my friends and I even had %26quot;Winter Formal%26quot; once. I have themed parties every year for my birthday, some people get more into it than others, but its always fun. Down in New Orleans we also have Mardi Gras balls that people get all dressed up for too, but if you want to do it, make it happen.
Hell, sometimes I prance around the house in my prom dress just because I can!
I %26quot;dress up%26quot; frequently. who says you can%26#039;t. Even on days I have off of work I tend to dress in dresses, trousers, or skirts. There%26#039;s nothing that says you have to wear t-shirts and jeans all the time. I you want to be more stylish and done up, go for it.
* go to nice dinner. i wear cocktail dresses, diamonds, and heels to dinner all the time. It%26#039;s tons of fun!
I really wish we had more reasons to get fully dressed up. At the moment my friends and I are planning a girls night to the casino, and we%26#039;re also trying to find a masqeurade (?) ball so we can get dressed up for that. I just love all the old style dresses with the corset tops and large skirts.
While I tend to dress casual more often than not for comfort%26#039;s sake, I agree that it would be nice to have more opportunities to dress up. You could always create your own reasons. You don%26#039;t have to wait for someone else to come up with an occasion if it%26#039;s something you want to do.
I agree one hundred and ten percent! I love love love dressing up!!! YAY! :)
Heck yeah. I%26#039;m really stumped on when I%26#039;m going to ever wear my wedding dress again. I already feel guilty.
i agree it would be cool if girls wore dresses more often and that guys dressed nice too
Yes, I do feel that way. I love dressing up and putting on a dress or skirt, it makes me feel so elegant. In fact, in the summer time, I fill my closet with summer dresses and skirts. It%26#039;s way better than shorts and such.
I do like being casual, I%26#039;ll admit I don%26#039;t have to dress up for work and I love it. I work with kids and spend most of my time sitting on the floor, in kiddie sized chairs and bending down to tie shoes; so I can%26#039;t dress up all the time. I wear jeans about 99% of the time. I wish there were styles that were a bit more friendly for my profession and lifestyle.
But, I%26#039;d love to have more opportunities to get dressed up and go out. I really admire the styles from the 40%26#039;s and 50%26#039;s and women wearing dresses out while running errands, going to even casual dinners or an evening at someone%26#039;s home. I think it was fabulous how women had a dress and perfectly coordinated shoes, scarfs, sunglasses and accessories.
Don%26#039;t get me wrong, I love the styles and fashions of today. But, we don%26#039;t pay as much attention to detail today, as back then. Plus, clothing and accessories are so expensive now, you can%26#039;t have a pair of shoes/scarf and sunglasses to match every single outfit you own. I%26#039;d go broke, if I did that. Instead, I have basics and essentials that go with just about everything in my closet.
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Are Some Things Better Left Unsaid?
What is your opinion? If you love someone (ex family), but you keep feeling hurt from them, and tell them, and it persists, isn't it time to let go, move on and not say anything at all?
No, you should really sit and talk to them. Let them know that you're still hurt by their words and things that they do even though you're not living with them anymore. Letting things go is only a temporary fix for something that will get bigger and worse as time moves on. Get them to understand that what they're doing to you is wrong and hurtful. See what their reaction is. If you don't get the desired answer or reaction out of them, then you'll know that you're wasting your energy and oxygen on a hopeless cause. In actuality, the desired action or answer may not come for a while. You have to have patience for these kinds of things. Family is a sensitive thing. You don't want to burn the bridges before you try repairing them.
Not knowing the situation that caused the pain, I would say let go. If you keep holding on to the thoughts that cause the pain, the only person you are hurting is you.
If you can not, then avoid the person.
No if you keep feelings unsaid, you'd be living a lie to them. Its not fair for someone to not know the truth. And it will be on your conscious all the time.
you have a life, go live it and stop worrying about the past.
No, you should really sit and talk to them. Let them know that you're still hurt by their words and things that they do even though you're not living with them anymore. Letting things go is only a temporary fix for something that will get bigger and worse as time moves on. Get them to understand that what they're doing to you is wrong and hurtful. See what their reaction is. If you don't get the desired answer or reaction out of them, then you'll know that you're wasting your energy and oxygen on a hopeless cause. In actuality, the desired action or answer may not come for a while. You have to have patience for these kinds of things. Family is a sensitive thing. You don't want to burn the bridges before you try repairing them.
Not knowing the situation that caused the pain, I would say let go. If you keep holding on to the thoughts that cause the pain, the only person you are hurting is you.
If you can not, then avoid the person.
No if you keep feelings unsaid, you'd be living a lie to them. Its not fair for someone to not know the truth. And it will be on your conscious all the time.
you have a life, go live it and stop worrying about the past.
Should I retire even if my wife says no?
I have worked for 32 years for Wash. State DOT and am70 years old. Will I live longer if I keep working?
You need to do what is best for you. Consider your finances. Would you be able to afford to retire? Do you have hobbies that you could give your time to such as golf, traveling or painting? Try to find out why your wife wants you to keep working. Is she afraid that you are not financially ready or will be underfoot? Communication could go a long way.
When my husband said he was retiring I cringed, he's very high maintenance and I was already retired. I had visions of my days tied up taking care of his every whim. He's been retired for almost 2 years, has lots of activities, we do a lot together, and it's been great. Talk to your wife and find out if she's concerned about your finances or just having you under foot all day. Good Luck.
You need to do what is best for you. Consider your finances. Would you be able to afford to retire? Do you have hobbies that you could give your time to such as golf, traveling or painting? Try to find out why your wife wants you to keep working. Is she afraid that you are not financially ready or will be underfoot? Communication could go a long way.
When my husband said he was retiring I cringed, he's very high maintenance and I was already retired. I had visions of my days tied up taking care of his every whim. He's been retired for almost 2 years, has lots of activities, we do a lot together, and it's been great. Talk to your wife and find out if she's concerned about your finances or just having you under foot all day. Good Luck.
Girls: If you were in a relationship, what would you do if this happened?
Say you're in a relationship with someone... What if another guy came along and asked you out, and you thought the guy was better in every way... Would you leave your current bf to give the new guy a shot?
Or at least date the guy and see where it goes?
Depends on how i feel about my current bf, if i think this other guy is better, then i would break up with him before seeing the other guy. But if i loved my current bf then i would stay with him.
Or at least date the guy and see where it goes?
Depends on how i feel about my current bf, if i think this other guy is better, then i would break up with him before seeing the other guy. But if i loved my current bf then i would stay with him.
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