My boyfriend lately has been leaving all the time, comes home late in the morning. We don do anything together anymore, its just like we are just roommates. He also gets mad at me for nothing, an over the stupidest things. I don know what to do need some advice.
Have you tried to open communication? You could always open up communication by lovingly telling him that you are feeling a little anxious and confused about what's going on in the relationship. Let him know that with his leaving and then being angry with you which probably seems like the rest of the time, that you would like to know if there was something that you did (this will help him from feeling as though you're attacking him) that contributes to his leaving and anger. Ask him if this is something you should be aware and concerned about, and that you're feeling insecure in the place you're at. If he decides he's with you and wants to be with you, but the conversation doesn't go very far. I would recommend couples counseling, or maybe you could invite yourself out with him when he leaves late at night and returns in the morning...see how he reacts and if he's open to it. Also, I believe that there are alot of things that you can do to make some differences and changes to the relationship without even needing him to change anything at the moment.
When you're around him make sure he sees your fun and positive side. Remember when you first started feeling the lovebug feelings? Go back there and look at who you were and how you were and the positive things that you did back then. Do you still do them now? Start finding things that you can do on your own that can take up some of your time and open you back up to growing and finding your confidence and happiness.
Being in relationships and having dealt with the anger over nothing issue...I found out that sometimes it's his own issues that makes them angry and they project it towards you as a defense. And I will admit it will leave you feeling insecure and as though maybe they're cheating on you, but I will not say for sure he is not cheating on you and that your intuition doesn't matter either.
The only person who knows if he's cheating at this moment is him. I'm not sure if I would confront him straight up in an aggressive matter if you are to start a conversation with him. If you want him to talk to you and need communication, it's time to practice finding a way to tenderly express .. "I FEEL" and ask questions. He probably feels your insecurity in this situation, and that in itself could make him defensive and ready to get pissed off so that he can avoid communication.
There's so many books to help you work on the relationship that would attract him almost subconsciously, so it's not like you have no options to speed things up or do some things passively, but it takes time to rebuild your relationship to the honeymoon stage the longer it continues, so if you're not sure how to handle the boyfriend start working on yourself and he'll see what's going on with you and be not only attracted but very curious himself about why and what made you go back to spending time on yourself - making yourself feel more attractive, secure, independent, fun, happy, motivated .... etc etc
I could go on and on....
definatly do not do what the person above me said... Talk to him about doing more things together and hanging out more but not in a nagging way and be careful because it seems like he is frustrated or somthing... just dont cheat on him to make him realize how hes stupid that will just end it comletly and thats a very stupid thing
do you ask him where he's going? Because my boyfriend does that and he's only out with his friends and he gets mad at me for the stupidest things too because I lied to him one time. But yea try talking to him.
umm catch him cheating and dump him or cheat on him to show him how it feels or just dump him
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